Faith and Fear Trump Family and Love

I saw this post on Reddit, and thought I would share it here.  The content is in its entirety.

My family hasn’t talked to me for a couple of weeks after finding out that I’m an Atheist. My dad DISOWNED me as his daughter, through e-mail today.

Dad: You’re an atheist then you don’t need family. God have mercy on your soul.

My Response: I can hate the beliefs but not the believer; so I hope you would hate the sins but not the sinner… It doesn’t mean that we don’t agree at one aspect in life, that we do not have a common ground at all. Let love and compassion be our common ground. Isn’t that what any religion preaches anyway?

Dad: Even satan acknowledges the existence of God. but then you do not believe in Satan. That is the greatest HELL you will be – LIMBO. No meaning, no purpose. Just going by the flow, and waiting for your turn to die. You are confused, that is because your heart is clouded by your reading. You are right religion will not save… but not believing in God will damn your soul. My goodness. Whatever you have been through, do not shut Him out. Love emanates from Him. It is you who allowed your belief to get in the way. Your ways, your ill-manners and disrespect for your parents are manifests of the presence of the devil in your life. We have been praying for you, every day without miss. You are under grace because of our love and prayer, but God have mercy on your soul. You are blinded because you want to be liberated. We have to part ways. And I will pray doubly hard that you will find your way back. Go enjoy your empty life.

My Response: That’s an illogical jump of conclusion. Very stereotypical and generalized. It takes a person with an open mind to comprehend atheism. Bill Gates was an atheist but was a good charitable man. So your statement is invalid and completely null. Sagan, an atheist, but was a GOOD FATHER to his children and a very LOVING HUSBAND to his wife. There is no need for false stereotyping. If you allow religion to come between you and your daughter, then such conditional love must your god have instilled in you then. I would not take parenting advice from that god at all.

My friend’s opinion: So you’re a nurse, who takes care of people who are sick, and you also do babysitting means you’re trusted by parents to look after their children, you are obviously someone who cares a great deal about people… and your Dad has a problem with you because you’re an atheist??? There’s plenty of friends with you in your pics, plenty of different places you’ve been to, plenty of hobbies and interests you have, you love life, and people, and new experiences. He should be proud.

Conclusion: I guess my dad only saw the ATHEIST in me. Religion is blinding. I guess that’s proof of ‘CHRISTIAN’ love. God first above everything else even your own children. It’s just so ridiculous how the church could twist people’s minds and even control their personal lives.

This isn’t the first time I’ve heard – or written – about this crap.  Here’s one about a mother disowning her son after he left the Jehovah’s Witnesses; and another one from a father to his son for coming out as a homosexual.  In this case, the father sounds like some passive aggressive asshole, especially with the line at the end telling her to “enjoy [her] empty life”.  He, like the other two parents I have linked above, has let the fear of some unknowable fate that’s been beaten into his head for his entire life take priority over the love he should have for his children.  I suppose in his own way, he’s trying to express that love by not wanting them to go to the hell he believes in .  And again, if you’ve been told since childhood that an eternity of torment awaits you if you don’t believe in some loving, merciful God with serious self esteem issues, sometimes it’s hard to change the way your brain is wired in order to consider it might be just a story.  Well, in this case, this story just ruined yet another family.

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